Blair stormed into the loft, threw his jacket at the hook and tossed
his keys in the general
direction of the basket.
Cupboard doors rattled on their hinges and the fridge door was slammed shut.
Sandburg swore as he kicked his toe on something and looked at his lover
with the most
weary and defeated expression Jim had seen in a while.
Jim walked towards him and held his arms out.
Within seconds he had his arms full of warm, wired guide.
“Bad week huh?” He asked, hugging the smaller man tight.
“Yeah”
“Anything I can do?”
“Just hug harder”
In the traditional bear hug (named for members of the family Ursidae,
who do it best), one hugger
usually is taller and broader than the other, but this is not necessary
to sustain the emotional quality of a bear-hugging. The taller hugger may
stand straight or slightly curved over the shorter one, arms wrapped
firmly around the other’s shoulders. The shorter of the pair stands
straight with head against the the taller
hugger’s shoulder or chest, arms wrapped – also firmly!- around whatever
area between waist and chest
that they will reach. Bodies are touching in a powerful, strong squeeze
that can last five to ten seconds or
more.
The feeling during a bear hug is warm, supportive and secure.
Bear hugs are for:
Those who share a common feeling or a common cause.
Friends (this includes marrieds and lovers, who hopefully are friends too)
Anyone who wants to say wordlessly, “You’re terrific!” Or “I’m your
friend; you can count on me.”
Or “I share whatever pain or joy you’re feeling.”
From The Little Book of Hugs by Kathleen Keating